me Jane?

How do I say that it's painful you have no idea what to get me for Valentine's day? Or my birthday? I want to not have to tell you. I'm always thinking how does a man perceive life differently? I think that a lot of the problem relationships have is the different ways men and women understand life and everything else. How does this correlate. Because it really hurts that I know what to get him. I see things that are cute that I know would make him smile. I'm a woman. We are nurturers by nature. Men are providers. So by that logic should I be heartbroken that he has no clue? Because as a woman I understand that to mean you have no idea who I really am. Should I chalk it up to the fact that my honey do list gets done and he drives cause I hate to and all that  inane monotony as him seeing that he provides so Tarzan job accomplished? Honestly this whole thing about him getting me a gift had me feeling ugly and undesirable.